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The Latowski – Full Coverage, Stainless Male Chastity

One look at the Latowski can strike fear in the hearts (as well as other places) of men. With a finely polished exterior construction of stainless steel, it literally screams no escape while the interior silicon rubber surface gently cradles the more sensitive cargo. This combination of the soft inner surface and the unyielding outer shell with full groin coverage combine to make a truly daunting chastity appliance. It’s like King Arthur meets Edgar Allen Poe! (I bet Guinevere could have found a knightly use for this device.) As if that imposing design wasn’t enough to tame a wayward male, it also neatly houses options for electrical stimulation. Unlike the DreamLover’s DC pulse, this unit houses a completely enclosed, remote-controlled, AC stimulation module from which there is no escape. Each of these belts is custom form fitted to the lucky wearer who can make a quick trip to Germany for a visit to the tailor, Mario Latowski. No doubt that this is the Rolls Royce of chastity belts!


The Mistress, the Violet Wand and the Chastity Cage

Last night was the beginning of weekend dedicated to serving my Mistress, the creative Mistress Cassandra. The opening act was the initiation of a new, recently received, violet wand. I was not allowed to remove the metal chastity cage before we started. Rather I was commanded to apply the wand’s electric touch to various sensitive body parts with the cage still firmly confining my manhood in its steely grip. When applied directly to the skin, the wand yields a (more…)


A sneak peek inside DreamLover Labs

Maybe it’s because I travel a lot… Maybe it’s because I blog frequently… Whatever the reason, I recently got the rare opportunity to meet with the founder of DreamLover Labs and get a peek at the research and development activities of this unique company. We talked about the current product, the DreamLover 2000, and how many people fantasize about owning one either for themselves or their lucky partner. Speaking for myself, I thought about this a lot while it was still in development. The idea of Mistress Cassandra summoning me from afar and remotely punctuating her commands with electric exclamations seemed surreal. I for one was very impressed that they (more…)


q’s Metal Chastity Cage Adaptation for the Masses

"Control the cock, control the boy!"

I’m pleased to report that after months of merciless testing by Mistress Cassandra, the perfected adaptation of the Watchful Mistress combined with the Dreamlover 2000 is going into production. In fact, the great folks at Mature Metal will be showing the tantalizing combination of these two devices at Fetishcon this weekend. So if you’re in that area you can go and see it for yourself. Even better, you can order the pair and feel the power. You have my word that with that electrical encouragement, you will do your best to satisfy whoever holds the remote. My delicious Mistress Cassandra certainly enjoys how attentive I am when fitted with this devious duo. I recently listened to an interview where Mistress Delia and Mistress Layla interviewed Mistress MatureMetal and her craftsman / husband. It was they who artfully prepared the cage I that I’m currently locked into. During the interview, it became apparent that all three of the Mistresses were anxious to get their hands on the controls. I’m sure they will find the responses of their chosen, lucky males just as delightful and Mistress Cassandra does with me.


Watchful Mistress Update

I have been testing the new Watchful Mistress connected to the DreamLover 2000 for a few days now. As I reported before, the connectivity and reliability seems excellent. Regardless if I am clothed or not, standing, sitting, lying down, on my back, on my side, bending over, or whatever, those pulses come through! (Ouch!) Testing was done using a windows test program that randomly pushed the “Test stealth pulse” of the DreamLover Configuration dialog. Note that this “random pulse” routine would be an excellent addition to Mistress Cassandra’s arsenal of tricks since it really keeps you focused.

The team at DreamLover Labs has suggested that the plastic coating is not needed. Over the next week or so I will be validating this hypothesis. However, Mistress Cassandra wants me to finish testing quickly and hand all control over to her. What Mistress wants, Mistress Gets!


A blissful marriage – Watchful Mistress & Dreamlover 2000

Goaded on my Mistress Cassandra’s insistence that the Dreamlover 2000 be continuously available and at her disposal as a training incentive, I relentlessly pursued improvements which would enable me to sport this device 24/7. While my earlier attempts at attaching the Dreamlover were very effective at delivering her sinister electronic zap, they failed to be practical for long term wear. However, with a little ingenuity and help from the wonderful people at both Mature Metal and Dreamlover Labs I now have a customized cage that will fulfill my Mistress’s requirements.

A Metal Chastity Cock Lock is the Solution

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The waiting is the hardest part

Last weekend my supercharged Mistress Cassandra toyed with me using the Dreamlover connected to the Humber. For 35 minutes I was forced to remain on all fours as she randomly sent commands and electric torments to my balls from her male management console while viewing my reactions on webcam. It was an intense training session to be sure. Oh, and I was denied.

This weekend, I was instructed to wire myself to the Dreamlover in preparation for, as of yet, unknown remote persuasion at her inspiring hand. I have modified the DL connation so that it no longer requires the elastic conductive strap to be used with my metal chastity cage. The first electrode is still connected to the TENS pad, but the second is now attached to the metal cage itself. The resulting infamous Dreamlover pulse is now even more intense while still using the default settings. They are strong enough that it takes real mental effort to overcome the physical aversion when pushing the “summon” switch. However, I am now wired into the nexus and Mistress Cassandra can invoke any command she chooses at any time. As the song says, The waiting is the hardest part…


Dreamlover 2000 meets the Watchful Mistress (part deux)

In my first posting on using the Dreamlover 2000 with the Watchful Mistress, I promised that there would be additional details. So to fulfill that promise (as a good submissive must always do) I’m pleased to report a very viable solution. This solution is a combination of the two techniques I had previously presented; elastic electro bands and TENS pads. Connecting the first electrode to a band stretched around the balls yields a good and reliable electrical connection isolated from the metal device. The TENS pads for testicular connections had a tendency to become unstuck due to physical movement where the band “hangs in there”. For the second electrode, a TENS pad positioned inside the chastity device, adhered to the top of the penis, will remain fixed in place due to close proximity to the sheath. The elastic band was impractical due to its size, fastener and connector. Thus, using the combination achieves reliable connections that can “go the distance” day or night. My apologies to you guys in metal that were anxious to avoid a Dreamlover 2000. However, my service to Mistress Cassandra’s commands and desires must come first.

As I was writing this entry, Mistress Cassandra just “remotely managed” me. I can assure you that the connections described above achieve excellent connection to the Dreamlover 2000. Even using the default settings for the pulse times, the MEDIUM pulse had me on my knees wishing I could beg her for leniency.  


Dreamlover Energizes the Humbler

After I was locked in the Watchful Mistress last night, my wonderfully cleaver and deliciously devious Mistress Cassandra informed me of a new plan to further enhance my remote torment with the Dreamlover 2000. As seen in the photo, this scenario has the DL’s electrodes connected to the electrical terminals of the humbler! Oh how very, very wicked! Thus restrained, not only will I be kept on all fours as long as it amuses Mistress, but she will also have the option of zapping me in the balls on my “Male Management Control Panel” at her whim. She dictated that this weekend I will be on instant messenger camera while she choreographs my humbled submissive prancing sprinkled with Dreamlover controlled incentives from afar. Mistress Cassandra’s voice was dripping with enthusiasm and delight as she speculated on possible instructions and my helpless reactions to her electrically enforced commands. Just the thought of what’s to come (and what’s not to come) fills me with both excitement and fear. What will she have me do while humbled? How long will I be locked in this humiliating position? Will I be grated the favor of even a small amount of sexual relief? Since my beautiful Mistress will read this post before the session starts, I invite you to leave a comment. This is your opportunity to assist in creating an unforgettable encounter.


Dreamlover 2000 meets the Watchful Mistress

With the help of some elastic electo bands, the Dreamlover 2000 meets the Watchful Mistress.

Details to follow….

Mistress Cassandra had fun playing with me in this fashionable outfit.


Tease & Denial, Dreamlover Style

After having the Dreamlover for only a few days, my always clever Mistress Cassandra has come up with additional ways to use this new technology to remotely tease and deny me. How did she accomplish this? First she had me adapt the Dreamlover electrodes to connect to readily available self adhesive e-stim pads. I did this through the use of fully insulated “female spade” terminals that were crimped onto standard electro plug wires (see photo at left). The spade terminals slipped over the ring terminals of the Dreamlover electrodes enabling a secure, insulated connection without modification to the unit itself. Now she could command me to place the adhesive pads in various sensitive areas at her whim. Next she had me attach the vibrating arousal inducer to my “sweet spot” with a hair tie. Now fully connected and at her disposal, she could stimulate, zap or both simultaneously from her remote management panel. Needless to say, this gave Mistress Cassandra new levels of control that allowed her to bring me to new, dizzying heights of frustration (a task that she relishes).


Dreamlover 2000 Review: First impressions

After months of waiting, the Dreamlover 2000 unit finally arrived today. First, neither Mistress Cassandra nor I are affiliated with Dreamlover Labs in any way so this is an unbiased, non-promotional account of my first impressions. Second, for those of you that posted disparaging comments about this site being a hoax or fantasy, you were wrong. As you can see in the photo, my unit arrived with all the components as advertised and they look gorgeous. The remote, with its highly polished plastic shell, is a thing of beauty. At only 3 inches tall and ¼ inch think, it’s smaller than I expected.  It comes complete with a small molded hole for easily attachment to a key ring and it’s thin enough to be slipped into a bra (not that I would know about such things). It’s the perfect accessory item for any fashion your Mistress may choose to wear; casual, formal or maybe something a bit more devastating… The receiver unit is very compact enabling unobtrusive attachment beneath clothing. The USB link is, well… a USB stick. Overall the components are attractive and look professional.

SOFTWARE

In preparation for the big day, I grabbed the DL Uplink software from the downloads area at the DL site and installed. (You can download and try this software in demo mode even if you don’t have the device.) Everything worked as advertized with only a minor issue with Windows 7 permissions. I reported my findings and WOW, such responsive support. They quickly replicated the problem, sent me a new version and even gave me a credit on their blog! Nice touch. Installing the drivers on Windows 7 was a bit of a problem because of MS signing requirements, so I quickly moved to a Vista machine and had no issues. (DL support informed me there is a simple way to work around the Win 7 restrictions) With the drivers running, I fired up the application and it asked me to set the owner for this receiver. Once completed, I couldn’t help myself. I had to hit a button to see if everything was communicated. Sure enough, pressing the pager selection yielded several reassuring “chirps” from the receiver unit. So far so good.  

MOUNTING

I attached the required connections to my old school CB3000 without any problems. The instructions on the DL site were clear and self-explanatory.  I hand tightened the plastic nut to prevent stripping the threads.  The resulting configuration is seen in the picture below. There is plenty of opportunity for optimization in the mounting, but more on that in later posts. I was getting anxious to try out the features.

CUSTOMIZING

The only customization I wanted initially was to name the silent commands for Mistress Cassandra. Remember, a good submissive goes out of his way to make life easier for his Mistress. To do this, I entered the customization panel on the DL Uplink software, found the silent command panel and type them in. Whoops, they didn’t seem to be saved. Trying again, I retyped them and modified the tempo up one tick and then back down. Sure enough, when navigating away from the panel I was prompted to save the silent command modifications to disk. Even better, when I logged into the web management panel on the Nexus, those new names appeared! Again unable to resist, I selected one of the silent commands I had just named from the web console. Sure enough, a few seconds later the receiver chirped and vibrated the requested command to the disembodied receiver. Hey, this is really fun!

INTO THE RABBIT HOLE

The time had come; it was the moment of truth. Time to be saddled up and feel those electronic spurs. It took a little finesse, but I finally got everything in place and properly positioned. I was ready for the first test. I selected “pager” since it was advertized as minimal severity, attention-getting pulses. Sure enough, it got my attention! I’m sure most of you want to know what it felt like. If you have ever experienced a TENS unit, then you know roughly the sensation but in a single, short pulse. For those who haven’t had this experience, imagine a clamp with dull points that closes on the contact areas for a very brief period of time and then is gone. It’s startling; not pleasurable but not overtly painful either. Summoning my courage, I issued “Low” and “Med” pulses. These induced the same sensations yet more intense. Finally the “High” pulse was issued with some trepidation. More intense, not painful, but definitely not something you want to repeat. The technique DL uses is quite effective in grabbing your attention and persuading you to be a good boy. I’m sure Mistress Cassandra will have loads of fun zapping my privates to get my attention, reinforce her authority and to improve my productivity. She has indicated that this weekend will be interesting.

SUMMING IT UP

I didn’t have time to play with all the modes and features yet (there are so many). Overall the Dreamlover 2000 is a unique, well designed and manufactured product. The hardware is attractive, solid and reflects a dedication to quality engineering that is not found in many sex toy manufacturers. Mounding the electrodes for long-term wear will be a little challenging, but with some experimentation and creativity those challenges can be easily overcome. (Dreamlover Labs has done the really hard part; designing the electronics, writing the software and getting it to market.) The software and features are unique and very usable. The issues I found are minor and never put the user in harm’s way. The support is fantastic! I received a new software version fixing the silent mode naming issue from the Dreamlover team even before finishing this post. WOW, when was the last time that happened with a product? Look for more news here as I become the dreamlover Mistress Cassandra requires. Better yet, give my creative Misttress a call and become a dreamlover yourself!


The Dreamlover 2000 order is in!

Soon after Dreamlover Labs opened their online orders, Mistress Cassandra and I decided to give it a try. The price is steep, but being on the cutting edge of any technology has its price. We were hoping to have the unit this weekend for experimentation but sadly the Male Management Goddess didn’t cooperate so we will have to wait a little longer (talk about tease and denial!). Mistress Cassandra did successfully connect through the companies Male Management Nexus which allowed her to remotely “push my buttons”. While we impatiently wait for the Dreamlover 2000 to arrive, I proposed a list of actions to be programmed into the “silent commands” for my Mistress.  The silent commands are unique vibratory patterns delivered to my penis through the built in arousal inducer at the touch of a button on Mistress’ command console to invoke behavioral roles or specific actions. So what commands would most please my most talented Mistress? Here are the options I have presented her so far:

  • Dismissed (remove any toys, get dressed, resume prior activities / duties)
  • Get naked
  • Kneel
  • Stand at attention
  • Apply nipple clamps
  • Insert anal toy
  • Apply and lock cuffs, collar
  • Apply gag (no eating, drinking or smoking!)
  • Exercise
  • At ease/rest
  • Chant mantra/meditate
  • Shower

If you have ideas on additional actions that you think would amuse Mistress Cassandra to command me from afar, please leave a comment. I will be recording and updating my impressions and experiences on this blog regularly. In the meantime, why not give Mistress Cassandra a call to discuss your own chastity training program; with or without a Dreamlover strapped to your manhood.


Continuing education with Mistress Cassandra

Yesterday I was permitted to talk with my wonderfully imaginative Mistress Cassandra. Having been two weeks since my last orgasm, I was very, very anxious to be allowed the privilege of just touching my cock in a stimulating fashion. Knowing this, Mistress cleverly had me prepare by ordering nipple clamps, prostate massager and the electo cock strap to be applied before contemplating any masturbation. Finally, after what seemed an eternity with the clamps  biting, the massager vibrating and the electro energetically pulsing, permission to touch my cock granted. I reveled in the glorious relief so long forbidden. The orgasm I so hungrily craved quickly approached. I stayed hovering on the edge, enjoying the sensations that I knew would be all to brief, while my Mistress enjoyed the show.  After seemingly only minutes (I’m sure it was longer), I was ordered to lock myself back into the cage without orgasm. Thus motivated I was given two assignments. First, the posture collar was to be locked around my neck until such time as she chose to release me. The second task, which was far more challenging, was to identify areas in which my service to both Mistress Cassandra as well as the Head Mistress needed improvement. Sleep did not come easily that night. Thinking about what to write while locked in collar and cage had me whimpering in frustration. I mailed my self-revealing letter to Mistress Cassandra this morning. What will she decide my next lesson should be?


A Gift from Mistress Cassandra

Collared for Mistress Cassandra

This past weekend, after eleven days locked in chastity, Mistress Cassandra favored me with her attention. First, thankfully, I was released from my chastity cage. Just being free from its confining grasp was gift enough to have me profusely thanking my imaginative Mistress. I slowly, deliberately, caressed the flesh that been denied for so long. However, manual relief was not what Mistress had planned for me. I was commanded to strap my cock into the electro harness for her entertainment. Slowly she forced the dial up, up and then up again. “More Juice” she demanded with a haunting chuckle.  I complied until my whole groin was buzzing with the electrical torment. Still not satisfied she required nipple clamps to further my submission. I complied, as always, to her directives wanting nothing more than to release my desire which she had so cleverly cultivated over the preceding days. Thus, judging me now properly conditioned and motivated… we talked. She comfortably seated while I stood clamped and highly charged. We discussed service-oriented submission as described by Ms Rika. It is not what the dominant does to the submissive but rather what the submissive does for the dominant. With the electrons sharply kissing my cock, her words made so much sense. I could do nothing but agreed with her irrefutable logic. Then, with Her lesson properly taught to her captive student, Mistress Cassandra instructed me to lock myself into the cage once again. There would be no orgasm today. Finally, since I had followed her instructions so dutifully, my kind Mistress gave me a gift. A gift that would last me the whole weekend. Under her careful supervision I was requested to lock a posture collar around my neck and fasten it with a numbered plastic lock. I quickly compiled and found myself standing at attention under her gaze. In a voice that I could tell was delivered with a smile, my sweet Mistress informed me that I could remove the cruel collar on Monday morning… but she might check back beforehand to insure strict compliance with instructions. So for the remainder of the weekend I stayed doubly locked for my beautiful Mistress. Thank you for my gift.


An open letter to Mistress Cassandra

To the wonderful woman I have the honor to call my Mistress!

It was so very enjoyable to talk and play with You last night. I was tired from the day’s work but You weaved your magic, as You always do, to drive me to intense levels of frustration with no other thought than to hear you grant permission for orgasm. All the day’s worries melted away and all that was left was pure, unbridled passion. The parachute action was intense; I still feel its erotic ache this morning. The prostate massage was delicious; goading me on to higher levels of desire. The nipple clamps were cruel yet motivating. The electro, especially where you had me attach, was forceful and fervent. Completing my attire with the posture collar, a technique that forced me to look directly at Your lovely features, was truly inspired. Then when You had me properly harnessed, impaled, clamped and charged, You played with my lust like a cat plays with its prey. On and on it went with time standing still. I was the violin and You were the virtuoso performer. You kept playing and the music was so sweet and passionate. You kept me hoping, begging, praying for release for so, so long. But alas, in the end You denied me and so the night passed slowly, my lust still fueled by Your sexy voice echoing in my brain. It is only your continuous conditioning which prevents me from putting out the fire You ignited. I surrender to Your supervision and will follow Your instructions as dictated. Thank You, my exquisite Mistress Cassandra.

With admiration and affection,
-q-


DreamLover: radio-controlled male chastity with a remote for the Modern Mistress

Mistress Cassandra recently assigned me the task of scouring the net for all things new on male chastity. While obediently investigating, I discovered DreamLover Labs; a company focused on creating high-tech “male management” devices. Reportedly they will soon be selling a radio-controlled receiver unit designed to mount on many popular chastity devices that can punish, pleasure, summon or leash a male all at the touch of a button on a hand-held remote control. Correction is delivered in the form of an electric shock at one of three power levels; reminder, warning or punish while the “good boy button” rewards the male by enabling a vibrator for a programmable period of time. A summon function emits a sound on the receiver unit to alert the wearer his presence is required. The leash feature insures that the male stays within an adjustable distance from the included USB device link. Straying outside this range will invoke the punishment routines. The USB device link also enables remote management and status reports from any internet browser or mobile web device. To enable remote management, DreamLover Labs hosts a server to enable a one-to-one connection from the web-based management panel of the Mistress and windows based application connected to the USB device link of the male. The management panel duplicates functions available on the hand-held remote control and allows them to be delivered from anywhere internet access is available. Additionally, this panel reports if the male receiver device is within range and continuously functioning. I recently participated in a system test of this remote management software and it performed as advertised and expected. Loading the Mistress Management panel from my Blackberry’s browser and selecting Arousal Inducer 1 caused the corresponding message to be displayed on my device link application a few seconds later. Male management meets the World Wide Web! DreamLovers Labs has opened this software for beta testing to the community and can be obtained here. Additional, they are gathering the Femdom inclined for an education committee to develop courses that can be used in conjunction with the receiver and USB device link to train males on a variety of topics unattended. Female authority and male obedience will soon be delivered with the technology of the 21st century.

your host and Her servant, q


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